It has been almost exactly one year since my big move from New York to Oregon. I can’t believe how much work the whole process was, but I know that it helped me to break it down into bite-sized chunks – otherwise I don’t know how I would have gotten everything done without getting overwhelmed.
I thought perhaps that after all the big decisions had been made to relocate to the opposite coast that the hardest part was over. I was wrong. There were a million tiny decisions left to make and as someone who struggles with decision-making it was a lot of work.
Here are 5 tips to help you manage your way through this process.
Friday morning we somehow managed to get out the door by 9:30am and on our way to Scotts Mills, Oregon to cross another item off our Summer 2016 bucket list – hiking at Butte Creek Falls.
By the way, if you live in the area you should really check those passes out. We’re working our way through using all of them this summer and have saved quite of bit of money so far. Continue reading
I find the older I get, the more tiring it is to keep making excuses for myself. I need to work on living in my own truth, figuring out at why I operate the way I do and calling bullshit on myself when necessary.
Basically getting out of my own way.
Sound familiar to anyone else? This may be the #1 reason I start things that never get finished. I wear myself out trying to make something ‘perfect’ and when I can’t – I give up on it. In fact, I’ve talked myself out of projects before I even started them due to this mindset. I think that ‘good enough’ gets a bad rap and from now on it will be my mantra.
Yes! Sadly, the realization that I’m not very good at those things that I’d most like to do frustrates and discourages me.
So what would I do if I didn’t let these things get in my way?
- I’d write fiction.
- I’d take more pictures.
- I’d stick with the things that bring me joy – even if I sort of suck at them (for now) until I can bridge that gap between my taste and my abilities.
We’ve already started doing a few things this summer that are making me happy like walking after dinner and taking time to read (actual) books every day. So I’d like to add one more thing – to be less of a consumer and more of a creator.
Adam is great example in this respect. He makes the time to write music, regularly and with purpose. Sometimes stealing 20 minutes here and there when he can find it.
My goal then for the rest of the summer is to purposefully create something every day whatever that may look like – could be taking photos, writing stories, putting together a blog post, journaling, designing stationery, making crafts, or who knows what else.
Doing it purely for the joy that fills my creative soul and not because I think it will be any good, as a matter of fact, I’m expecting it to suck. That’s right, I’m giving myself permission to be very bad at the things that make me happy and I’m looking forward to the freedom that will come along with that.
Starting right now.
A few weeks ago I did something that I really wanted to do and also didn’t want to do at all – isn’t that the way it is sometimes with adulting? The very things that are good for us are sometimes the ones that we just don’t want to do.
Having moved to a new city within the last year means that I don’t know very many people and almost all of the people that I know best and who really know me live 3000 miles away. So I need to start making some new friends – local ones that I can grab a drink or bite to eat with.
I can’t say that I’ve ever consciously tried to make new friends before. It feels strange, like the sort of thing that should just happen naturally and I have to admit, I’m not really a big fan of the early parts of friendship building. I’m an introverted extrovert (or an extroverted introvert) and while I derive a certain amount of happiness from social situations, I really suck at the mechanics of it all…the introductions, small talk and getting to know you phase. I’d rather skip ahead to the good stuff. Continue reading
We visited the ‘Witches House’ in Forest Park last October and I’m looking forward to exploring more of this huge park throughout the different seasons of the year.
Located in the Columbia River Gorge and just a short drive from Portland is the must-see Multnomah Falls. At over 600 feet tall, this magnificent waterfall is breathtaking and is the second highest year-round waterfall in the US. It was even featured in a scene from the Twilight movie and according to Native American lore, the falls were created to win the heart of a young princess who wanted a hidden place to bathe. Continue reading